Twylla Reid Coaching

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My Why

Well it's that time. We are close to half way through this year. Once June hits I start to reflect back on the last 6 months + start to look at what I want the next 6 months to bring me.

One of the things that I revisit is my WHY.

Why am I living this life that I so desire to live?

Why do I want to live a life full of health and wellness?

Why do I have the dreams + goals that I do?

Why do I want to have the careers that I do?

Why do I want to help others live a life of wellness?

These are just a few questions that I ask myself. The questions that I ask sometimes change, Sometimes they stay the same for a very long time. These are questions that you need to have that fit into your own individual life. These are all part of my 7 layers of why. If you are not sure what I am talking about, go back to my previous blog post to dig into that.

The reason that I do this is to make sure that my WHY is something that still hits me in that core spot to keep me moving forward. Our whys evolve + change over time. It's really important to continue to go back + reevaluate if it is still where you are at, if it's still aligned with you, + if it gives you that kick in the ass that you need. Let's dig into why I do the things that I do. What drives me to do life. In order for me to push through life, the hard stuff, the easier stuff, the everyday stuff. I have been working on this reevaluation process for a while now. It definitely is not something that happens quickly. It takes some time to dig very deep. When this is a new process it will take more time, as you get more seasoned you will be able to make the process move along faster. In order to have a WHY that is going to push you to a limit that makes all the difference, it needs to be deeper than just a mediocre answer.

I started to really realize that I was giving very surface level answers when someone would ask me about why I do the things I do. I came to this realization through the 7 layers of why. It got me to dig deeper.

I was in a very dark place in life, I had so much going on. We had a massive life shift; moved to a new place, quit a job, started a new career (that I had dreamed about), dove deep into myself, both of my parents had been diagnosed with cancer, my relationships with my kids was strained because of our life shift, my marriage was about to crumble + I was just barely keeping my own face out of the waters from drowning. When I say it was a dark place I truly mean it. I honestly mean it was the hardest year of my 39 years on this planet. I look back on it and I can not even understand how I made it through that year. This is where I truly came to that space where I found the reasons that connected with my core to push me on the days that were hard and I wanted to just give up.

I push through this life for my children. I do the things that I do, for them. I want to be that role model that they see living my dream. I want them to see that with hard work and dedication they can achieve whatever they put their minds to. I want them to see and watch that a person can transform into whatever they want. I want them to see that living a healthy, happy life is full of so much joy and fulfillment. I want to model that good communication, saying what you are feeling is okay + that it is the only way. I want them to know that we will be kind and loving all the time. I want them to succeed more in life than I have. I want them to know their worth and know that they are amazing no matter what. I don't want them to have to wait till they are in their 30's to figure this out. Living a life that they want is the goal. Not one that society or anyone else feels that they should be living. They can achieve anything that they love and desire. To have that passion that drives them in doing something that they love. Whatever that may be. The only way they are going to know this is if I show them how by living this life myself. The only way they are going to live a healthy life is if they see me living this life. I want them to see that their dreams are never too big. No one can tell them that their dreams are not good. It’s their life and they can and will live it to their fullest. That falling down is OK, as long as you always get back up + learn from what knocked you over. Come back stronger + smarter.

I want them to stand there and say at the end of my life that my mom showed me that living the passion we have in our hearts is what drives us. That I was their role model. That they are proud of the person that I was. That I was so full of life and love. That I always see the lighter side of life. That every single situation was always figureoutable. That they see the world through different eyes because they see how to do that through me.

This switch came for me after losing my Granny. Sitting there hearing that everyone felt that she was the most welcoming woman. The most caring woman that they had ever met. That is what I am striving to be every single day. The homerun for this was when both of my parents got diagnosed with Cancer within 2 days of each other. I knew that I was going to care for my body, mind, + soul with the utmost care. I was going to lean in and take care of this one body that I get in this life. So My why is to show this every single day so that it is just second nature to my children. To show hard work, dedication, dreaming, achieving, not letting anyone knock your dreams or your vision down. Because it is not theirs. It is your very own. No one else is living your life for you, making sure that you are living it for you. Monkey see monkey do.

I also believe that every single person in this world deserves to live a life that they can look back on and be so fulfilled + at peace with.

The #1 regret of the dying is:

I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

Take care of your body, you only get one of these for this life.

Do all the things to make sure you are fueling it in a way that's right for you.

Take care of your mind, this is an everyday thing.

Learn, dig deep within, open yourself up.

Find the reasons why you do the things you do.

Change the way you think to fit with a brighter life.

Take care of your soul, this is your guiding light in this world.

It will steer you in the direction of a mind blowingly amazing life.

If you are finally ready to make the choice + leave all the

excuses behind to shift your life to what you want, I am

here to walk beside you on this journey of health +

wellness for full body alignment.

I am rooting for YOU!

With love,

Coach Twylla